I can speak from experience as I have 15 years old, strong-willed son with strong opinions. The way I deal with it is to first give enough space for him to do what he thinks is right. Very often, at that age, they are testing boundaries. After a few days of doing this, I then have a very casual conversation which gets him to reflect.. how was I productive, what did I achieve, what did I miss etc… I then lead into a conversation and share my personal perspective on a balanced approach. This is not a one-off, but an ongoing strategy. In the long run, I do believe that kids who are allowed to be and not controlled, shape out fine… I have my older son as a testimony to that😀 – shared by a friend Vani